I have never liked the phrase "speak nothing but good of the dead." Not because the deceased didn't deserve it, but because we all have our good and bad sides,polarity is what makes us whole. If we only celebrate the good on that day, we are taking away a part of that person's identity. The problem with men is that no one ever taught them that their feelings matter. That their actions matter, and that their presence and provision are what we truly need. If they were more open with their partners,who are supposed to have their backs and be their support,a text like this wouldn't be necessary as a reality of both the present and the past
I really loved reading this. I loved how you said, allow me to paraphrase, that emotionally we all know that death is when suddenly one becomes perfect. Like wow, it couldn’t have been written any better. If we go with the notion that the dead person is perfect then they definitely should get their flowers when they’re still alive and not wait you recognize them after their death. Honestly, Lawrence l loved this article. I just subbed. I hope to see more of your work
Lawrence, the way you’ve framed both life and death feels so accurate and simple. Not to say the piece itself is simple - it’s the way you’ve written and shared such clarity and poignancy around how our society honors most only after they’ve died. Thank you for this piece that beautifully reminds us to honor the living first.
I have never liked the phrase "speak nothing but good of the dead." Not because the deceased didn't deserve it, but because we all have our good and bad sides,polarity is what makes us whole. If we only celebrate the good on that day, we are taking away a part of that person's identity. The problem with men is that no one ever taught them that their feelings matter. That their actions matter, and that their presence and provision are what we truly need. If they were more open with their partners,who are supposed to have their backs and be their support,a text like this wouldn't be necessary as a reality of both the present and the past
It's really saddening. I don't want my flowers when I'm gone. I want it now.
I really loved reading this. I loved how you said, allow me to paraphrase, that emotionally we all know that death is when suddenly one becomes perfect. Like wow, it couldn’t have been written any better. If we go with the notion that the dead person is perfect then they definitely should get their flowers when they’re still alive and not wait you recognize them after their death. Honestly, Lawrence l loved this article. I just subbed. I hope to see more of your work
Thank you for creating the time to read my work. I appreciate
Lawrence, the way you’ve framed both life and death feels so accurate and simple. Not to say the piece itself is simple - it’s the way you’ve written and shared such clarity and poignancy around how our society honors most only after they’ve died. Thank you for this piece that beautifully reminds us to honor the living first.
Great to have your take on this Jessie. I appreciate